Harry and Sally finally got together--then what??

I have a hard time being vulnerable. Sometimes it is hard for me to be sweet. However, I think sweet and loving thoughts all of the time--it's just hard portraying that.  I want to be in control at all times. This is hard when you are married. I'm coming to terms with a lot lately. Vulnerability is needed in a relationship in order feel close to someone. I used to be great at it. I was lovey dovey gross when I was younger. That's what life can do..it can harden you. As you go from hurt to hurt starting in your teen years, it becomes easy to be jaded and want to self preserve. I'm working on it. It can also do with childhood. The fear of abandonment is something so many of us deal with being a part of the divorce craze of the 80s. I'm sure there was a divorce craze of the 70s as well, and so on. And now divorce is just part of marriage it seems. It's sad. Marriage is hard. I struggle with it. I married a good person, that helps. He is human and has his own struggles. Man, when you put together our baggage...it's really too heavy sometimes. I'm trying to take responsibility. Romantic movies just get you to the point where the two end up together--uh, then what??