Thursday, September 08, 2005


(If you are confused by the title...I apologize. I didn't know what it was either. An engineer told me, so I guess I recommend asking one.)

Look me in the eye when you talk to me. And don't let it be a water bug conversation, I hate those. Dive deep, even deeper...that is the only place I know where to swim. Avoid words that cause confusion. Words that make your sentences vague or easily manipulated from one meaning to another--"yet, I think, right now, love, close, should, probably, sooner, later, sooner or later, maybe, at the time, logically, etc." These words don't work with me...especially when they are put together to form a thought about a feeling. "I felt (expressed emotion)at the time." "I'm not ready for something like this...yet." I'm harsh, I expect others to be. Just say, "I don't want something like this (still vague, but oh well) with you."

When shaving, use a blade sometimes, not just an electric razor. There is an art to it that is sexy.

Collogne is nice...I've always said that the way a man smells can increase the attraction at least 30%.

Laziness, bad breath, awkward silences, an obnoxious laugh, being unkept, drinking too much, liking Bush politics at this point in time (well, most of the time), being close minded, hating, not aware of your surroundings and not being straight forward about your feelings--really kill the mood.

Pull out her chair. Make a motion to stand when she gets up from the table. Occasionally open the car door. Three simple, yet overlooked gestures.

If you don't like The Beatles, at least respect their music. (but we'd still never date)

A few literary or lyrical references that I'd prefer one know. "The Ides of March." "To thine ownself be true." "What is essential is invisible to the eye." "Sonnet 116" "The movement you need is on your shoulder." "In my life, I love you more." "I had a farm in Africa." "To be great is to be misunderstood." "A foolish consistency is the hobgoblin of little minds." "...the most important reason for going from one place to another is to see what's in between..." "Heard melodies are sweet, but those unheard are sweeter."

5 works that need to be read to understand me.
The Little Prince
The Phantom Tollbooth
Journal of a Solitude
Ode to a Grecian Urn
A Widow For One Year

Things that are blue. his eyes. my eyes. 1970 Ford Truck. his shirt. my comforter. wendy's painting. my pretend house on evergreen ave. a SJHS color. a KUJH color.

Don't like sushi, indian food, mediterranean, greek, tapas, white castle, fish, muscles, thai (i don't think), onions, mushrooms, garlic, cooked carrots or tomatoes...just give me a steak.

I raise my voice when I get upset.
I cry when I'm hurt.
I cry alone, at night, in my room. (only 3 people will get that one.)

Qualities I look for in a man:(not in any order)
Not only should he have a witty sense of humor, but he can make others laugh whole heartedly. Ambitious (to a point), has laugh lines, kind, can be romantic, generous, intellectual, loyal, honest, open, has the ability to relax, takes risks, traveler, loves music and movies, loves life and finally, can read a map.

The above makes me think of the Banks children writing out their ad for a new nanny. (Mary Poppins fit the bill.) Why can't that happen in real life? I guess I have to fit someone else's...hmmm.

More to come. I wonder, does the list of qualities that you want become longer as you get older and know more of what you want...or does it get shorter when you realize what you may have to settle for? I'm not much of a settler. Plus, I could name at least 3 men that fit that bill. One I've never come close to dating. They're out there!